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‘Cause You Were Born This Way, Baby

I’ve been wanting to blog about self-esteem for quite some time, but just haven’t gotten around to it because I know I’ve got a lot to say on the topic. However, this past week’s episode of Glee inspired me to get typing. You can watch the episode entitled ‘Born This Way’ by clicking on the following link:

http://www.fox.com/glee/full-episodes

I think I’ll have to spread this subject out over a few posts because I have so many thoughts on it, but I’ll begin by stressing the importance of good self-esteem, especially in young girls. For whatever reason, I’ve always had high self-esteem (for those of you who know me well, no jokes, please). And in my opinion, it’s my strongest attribute (again, no jokes). How I got it? I’m not really sure. I grew up with a strong mother and was raised by powerful women, but I think there’s something more to it than that. I’ve seen sisters who have grown up in the same home who have drastically different senses of their own worth. Maybe it’s not just about our parents. Maybe it’s a culmination of our individual life experiences as we’re growing up. Maybe it’s something we’re born with. Or maybe it’s all of the above. All I know, is that if I could find a way to bottle up confidence and sell it, I’d never have to worry about money another day of my life.

Junior high and even the beginning of high school was hell. It just is, no matter who you are. You’re awkward, you’re outrageously insecure, you’re irrational, you’re hormonal and the kids around you are exactly the same, so they act like assholes. Seriously, kids are mean. I know I’m going to get flack for saying that, but really, they are. They’re mean little people. And the reason for it is because it’s their own way of somehow keeping themselves from being judged.

We all know what it’s like – you worry about what you say, what you wear, who you hang out with, what music you listen to, how you wear your hair…the list goes on and on.  It’s awful! Everyone says that being a kid is so great, and it is, until you hit eleven or twelve – then it’s just sucky. I’ll take where I’m at right now over where I was when I was fifteen any day.

I admit I’ve always been pretty lucky in that I have self-confidence, but that doesn’t mean that I wasn’t and am not insecure at times. I think I figured out, at a much younger age than most, that it doesn’t matter what other people think. Maybe it was at the end of high school, but probably more throughout college, that I learned to not give a shit. This is me. This is who I am. This is what I’m about and this is what I want. And if you don’t like that? Totally fine. You have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to like you. You have to stay true to who you are, regardless.

And as far as physical insecurities go, I kind of am Rachel Berry. I get comments all the time about how much I look like her. The reason I started watching Glee was because I kept hearing this from people. When I finally Googled this chick (aka Lea Michele) I immediately thought, “Ahhh…it’s the nose.” I mean, yes, we’re both short, have the same coloring and similar features, but it’s the nose. And that wasn’t necessarily a good thing. If you watch the episode of Glee I mention above, you’ll see that it was all about Rachel’s nose and her debate about whether or not to undergo rhinoplasty. It’s funny because I could relate to so much of it. So many times I’ve prayed for a deviated septum! Everyone has that one thing they wish they could change about the way they look. My nose is just my thing. But honestly, if it came down to it, I don’t know if I could change it. It’s me. It’s Christina. I was born this way, and this is how I’m supposed to look.

What I want to know is what is it about my personality that allows me to look at my insecurity from this perspective? What allows me to say, “Oh, well!” about it? I like the way I look. I wish I knew because I want to share it. Throughout college, I would always tell my friends I wanted to write a book about self-esteem one day. It would drive me crazy to see these amazing friends I’d surround myself with voice all these insecurities about their bodies, weight, etc. Why couldn’t they see how perfect they each were? If only we could all see ourselves the way our friends see us.

When you don’t like yourself, when you’re insecure, when you’re not confident, when your self-esteem is low—you don’t make good decisions. You settle for less than you deserve. You don’t grow as a person. You make choices out of fear. You do things that aren’t good for you. You aren’t happy.

Most of all, someday, I want my children to be confident people. People who like themselves. Especially my daughters. Because when you like yourself, you demand respect. And when you like yourself, other people can tell and they want to be around you because it’s infectious. When you like yourself, you’re unstoppable—nothing can hold you back from what you want. When you like yourself, you’re happier and nicer to the people around you. If nothing else, I want my kids to be nice people. Hopefully, I’ll be a good example of that. If I do anything in this life, I want to raise decent human beings that are good to other people. When it comes down to it, what else really matters more than that?

So to wrap up today, I’m going to quote lyrics from the Queen of Accepting Who You Are (Lady Gaga, of course):

I’m beautiful in my way
‘Cause God makes no mistakes
I’m on the right track baby
I was born this way
Don’t hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you’re set
I’m on the right track baby
I was born this way

You should also check out her video below for the simple reason that it’s frickin awesome:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV1FrqwZyKw

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Food Revolution

I don’t know if you’ve watched Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution yet, but I urge you to tune in and check it out if you haven’t. I started watching last season and was so inspired that I signed his petition and have followed the progress of his initiative ever since. I was super excited when I learned that Season Two was going to be taking place in Los Angeles and I haven’t missed an episode since it started back up a couple weeks ago.

Jamie’s Food Revolution is basically an attempt to reform the school lunch programs and attitudes about food throughout the United States. It’s so nice to have someone who is finally taking charge with this problem. It’s unbelievable how unhealthy we are as a society when you compare us to the rest of the world. And what makes it even worse is that essentially the government is saying, “As long as it can be made cheaply, who cares what people put in their mouths.” Jamie is calling them out on this and trying to make the country more aware of the things we’re putting in our bodies. I think he does it in this incredibly smart way by making it about the children. It’s one thing to eat crap yourself, but are you going to feed your children crap? It gets people’s attention.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my junk food. I love fast food, fries, grease – all that fantastic stuff. But I’ll be honest, I’m not thinking about what’s in it when I’m eating it. I think what Jamie is trying to do is make everyone more conscious of what they’re really eating. What I like is that he’s not an extremist. He’s saying you can eat food that tastes wonderful and that you shouldn’t deprive yourself, but you need to do it in a healthy way AND you need to do it in moderation. Does it take more time and a little more money? Yes. But we’re talking about your health. We’re talking about your children’s health.

I think Jamie is brilliant. As a person, he has such a presence and force about him. He exudes this positive energy that I really think is contagious, and it makes the show what it is. Even if you don’t agree with him, I think it’s worth hearing him out. I think he’s doing a great thing and I sincerely hope it makes a difference.

You can catch up on Season Two episodes here:

http://abc.go.com/shows/jamie-olivers-food-revolution

You can also click on the link below to sign Jamie’s petition:

http://www.jamieoliver.com/us/foundation/jamies-food-revolution/sign-petition

P.S. In going with the Food Revolution theme, I would also recommend reading The Omnivore’s Dilemma by Michael Pollan. It took me a while to finish, but it’s an amazingly interesting and eye-opening book that sends a very similar message as Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution. Again, it’s making you more aware of what you’re putting into your body without turning you off by being so extreme. Definitely worth picking up.

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The Talk

I think everyone has their own horror story of how they got “The Talk” from their parents. I know my friends and I have swapped some pretty great ones. And even if they never talked to you about sex, I think that’s usually just as awful and sometimes worse. It’s something that is just simply uncomfortable for all parties involved and unfortunately, is usually one of those terrible moments that is forever embedded in our memories. So you would think parents would put more of an effort in trying to get it right, but that’s just usually not the case.

This week I was watching Glee, and the theme of the episode was sex education. If you haven’t watched it, you should.  Not only because I think it’s one of the best shows on television, but also because it has the best talk about the birds and the bees that I’ve ever heard. I was watching it with my mom and after we heard Burt Hummel (Mike O’Malley) give his gay son, Kurt Hummel (Chris Colfer), “The Talk” she immediately turned to me and said that I needed to blog about it because it was just too good not to.

Below I have the dialogue for you to take a look at. I just think it’s so heartfelt, so honest and so perfect. I love it. If only this could be “The Talk” we all could get…

Burt: Hey! You think this is easy for me? Okay, believe me, I want to do this even less than you do. This is gonna suck for both of us, but we’re gonna get through it together and we will both be better men because of it.

Burt: First, most of the mechanics of what you are gonna be doing is covered in the pamphlets, so I want you to read them and then I want you to come talk to me about it. Deal?

Burt: For most guys, sex is just, you know, this thing we always want to do. You know, it’s fun. It feels great. But, we’re not really thinking too much about how it makes us feel on the inside or, you know, how the other person feels about it.

Kurt: Women are different?

Burt: Only because they get that it’s about something more than just the physical. You know, when you’re intimate with somebody in, that way, you’re exposing yourself. You know, you’re never going to be more vulnerable, and that scares the hell out of a lot of guys. Believe me, I can’t tell you how many buddies I’ve got who have gotten in way too deep with a girl who said she was cool with just hooking up.

Kurt: But that’s not gonna happen to me, Dad.

Burt: No, it’s gonna be worse okay, because it’s two guys. With two guys, you’ve got two people who think that sex is just sex. It’s gonna be easier to come by, and once you start doing this stuff you’re not gonna want to stop. You see, you’ve got to know that it means something. It’s doing something to you, to your heart, to your self-esteem, even though it feels like you’re just having fun…

Kurt: So…you’re saying I shouldn’t have sex?

Burt: I think on your 30th birthday it’s a great gift to yourself.

Burt: Kurt, when you’re ready, I want you to be able to do everything, but when you’re ready, I want you to use it as a way to connect to another person. Don’t throw yourself around, like you don’t matter. Because you matter, Kurt.

Kurt: Is that it?

Burt: That’s it for now. Can I make you some toast?

You can watch the clip here:

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/03/09/sex-education-on-glee/

If you’ve got a funny story to share, whether you are a parent who has given “The Talk” or someone who has received it, I would love to hear it!

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