Pay It Forward

If there is one thing I think every young adult needs, it’s a mentor.  Someone to influence, guide and support you. Someone to be your cheerleader during the times you need it most. I am lucky enough to say I’ve had a few mentors thus far on this crazy journey of mine. All of them unique and wonderful in their own way.

Most of these mentors have been people helping me on my professional path, but they’ve all become really good friends of mine. They are people I trust and people I can really talk to. They’re people that care about me. Truly care. Each and every one of them has my best interest at heart. That’s pretty awesome, actually.

There were so many times during my year of unemployment where I felt completely hopeless. Whenever I was getting to the point of wanting to give up all together, there was one person in particular who just seemed to sense it and would reach out to give me that extra bit of confidence. His enthusiasm and belief in me was exactly what I needed. In the end, it was actually what helped me land the job I have now.

When I need advice, when I need a sounding board or when I just need to vent, I have a handful of people I can call on at a moment’s notice. That’s a really incredible thing to be able to say, and I am so appreciative and grateful of their kindness.

As important as it is to have a mentor, it’s just as important to make the effort to be a mentor. I watch so many people who have worked their way up the corporate latter and at the risk of sounding cliché, have completely forgotten where they came from. When does that happen? At what point do you start to forget?

I will always make the time for the college student who wants to sit down for an informational interview. I will make the time to grab coffee with the new associate or coordinator. I will make the effort to help give some kid just out of school encouragement and assurance because I’ll remember that time in your life is scary. Extremely scary.

I’m going to be a nice person. I’m going to show the fresh, bright-eyed, eager young adult that you can be smart and successful and great at what you do, but still be a decent, kind human being. I AM NOT GOING TO FORGET WHAT IT WAS LIKE.

Find a mentor. Be a mentor. Make the extra effort. Build the relationships. Keep paying it all forward.

“A lot of people have gone further than they thought they could because
someone else thought they could.”  – Unknown

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happy halloween!

What is a vampire’s favorite mode of transportation?

…A blood vessel.

Heh.

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Favorite Fall Scent

LEAVES by Slatkin & Co. from Bath & Body Works

This candle is A-MA-ZING. Smells just like autumn should and isn’t too sweet. Mine is burning in my room constantly.

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my chicago girls

Last weekend I spent in Chicago with friends. It was the first time I had been back since I moved home almost a year and a half ago.  In some ways that seems like forever, but once I was back there it felt like I had never left. In a strange way, I think that city will always be a part of who I am; it feels more like “me” than California does. I think I’m really just a Midwesterner at heart.

I love that with true friends distance changes nothing. You pick up right where you left off and it feels like no time has passed since you were last together. That’s how it was on this trip. It felt so good to see the girls and catch up on life. I LOVED every minute of it.

There’s nothing quite like your college friends. You shared a unique and special time together that no one else quite understands and that can never be repeated. You share stories, memories and a time in your life that I consider to be one of the very best. Essentially, you grown up together. The 18 year-olds you met as are not the same people who were handed diplomas a few years later. If you’re like me, and moved far away from home, these friends become your family. They’re who you spend your free-time with, who you rely on, who you grab to get a beer with, who you study with, who you cry to when you have a 15 page paper due the next day that you haven’t started and who you call when you need serious retail therapy.

There is nothing quite like the relationships you develop with these people. And if you’re lucky enough, those relationships will last a lifetime.

Make good friends and be a good friend. I think life happens and people forget to make the effort or to stay in touch. Don’t let that happen. Make the time for your friends. Be patient and forgiving because yes, life does happen, but don’t ever let too much time pass. Remember how much you enjoy each other and be sure to check-in every once in awhile. Make the reunions happen and return phone calls. When life happens, these are the people who make it all easier.

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Five Good Things:

(that happened this week)

1. Went to the pumpkin patch.

2. Finally had a rainy day!

3. Mom made baked mostaccioli for Dad’s birthday dinner. Yum!

4. Spending the weekend in Chicago with all my college friends (more on this later).

5. Moved to a new office at work and am loving the sunlight, open space and new people.

Let’s hear it – what are your five?

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Steve Jobs:1955 – 2011

The world lost an incredible human being today. It just goes to show how quick and fragile life is. Take a minute and be grateful that you are alive and have your health.

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”

“I want to put a ding in the universe.”

“My job is to not be easy on people. My job is to make them better.”

 “Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

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fall decorating

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