I think everyone has their own horror story of how they got “The Talk” from their parents. I know my friends and I have swapped some pretty great ones. And even if they never talked to you about sex, I think that’s usually just as awful and sometimes worse. It’s something that is just simply uncomfortable for all parties involved and unfortunately, is usually one of those terrible moments that is forever embedded in our memories. So you would think parents would put more of an effort in trying to get it right, but that’s just usually not the case.
This week I was watching Glee, and the theme of the episode was sex education. If you haven’t watched it, you should. Not only because I think it’s one of the best shows on television, but also because it has the best talk about the birds and the bees that I’ve ever heard. I was watching it with my mom and after we heard Burt Hummel (Mike O’Malley) give his gay son, Kurt Hummel (Chris Colfer), “The Talk” she immediately turned to me and said that I needed to blog about it because it was just too good not to.
Below I have the dialogue for you to take a look at. I just think it’s so heartfelt, so honest and so perfect. I love it. If only this could be “The Talk” we all could get…
Burt: Hey! You think this is easy for me? Okay, believe me, I want to do this even less than you do. This is gonna suck for both of us, but we’re gonna get through it together and we will both be better men because of it.
Burt: First, most of the mechanics of what you are gonna be doing is covered in the pamphlets, so I want you to read them and then I want you to come talk to me about it. Deal?
Burt: For most guys, sex is just, you know, this thing we always want to do. You know, it’s fun. It feels great. But, we’re not really thinking too much about how it makes us feel on the inside or, you know, how the other person feels about it.
Kurt: Women are different?
Burt: Only because they get that it’s about something more than just the physical. You know, when you’re intimate with somebody in, that way, you’re exposing yourself. You know, you’re never going to be more vulnerable, and that scares the hell out of a lot of guys. Believe me, I can’t tell you how many buddies I’ve got who have gotten in way too deep with a girl who said she was cool with just hooking up.
Kurt: But that’s not gonna happen to me, Dad.
Burt: No, it’s gonna be worse okay, because it’s two guys. With two guys, you’ve got two people who think that sex is just sex. It’s gonna be easier to come by, and once you start doing this stuff you’re not gonna want to stop. You see, you’ve got to know that it means something. It’s doing something to you, to your heart, to your self-esteem, even though it feels like you’re just having fun…
Kurt: So…you’re saying I shouldn’t have sex?
Burt: I think on your 30th birthday it’s a great gift to yourself.
Burt: Kurt, when you’re ready, I want you to be able to do everything, but when you’re ready, I want you to use it as a way to connect to another person. Don’t throw yourself around, like you don’t matter. Because you matter, Kurt.
Kurt: Is that it?
Burt: That’s it for now. Can I make you some toast?
You can watch the clip here:
If you’ve got a funny story to share, whether you are a parent who has given “The Talk” or someone who has received it, I would love to hear it!